Wow – this set off a firestorm in my head.The thing is she cheated on me when I was a child and it still hurts just as much as the day it happened and I haven't even seen her for a lifetime. This is why I have to accept it and surrender to the pain and lock it up in a little box and put it on the shelf. That way I'm not weeding it out of my life because anytime I want to take that box down and open it up and look at all the old memories and all the old songs and think about the entire relationship from the day we met until the day she cheated. All have a good cry and put everything back in the box and put it back up on the shelf and take it back down anytime I want to revisit those feelings again. But in the meantime, I don't have to constantly be thinking about it and of losing the memory of such a wonderful love. I hope that doesn't sound like masochism. What you think my friend.?