Hi Holly, I was and am rather going crazy because I intensely need more physical closeness with my wife. Because of her horrible childhood, she has very little empathy and has a difficult time expressing emotion and physical love overtures. Because she's not a jealous person and this didn't interfere in our relations at all, I went ahead and found a girlfriend. Not someone that I wish to have a commitment with because we are totally wrong for each other in so many ways. However, this person and I, because we are sharing our lives, has got to be very special to me. We exchange I love yous and I am very smitten. But I'm married and I have a wife, but I also have a girlfriend. She's married and I'm married but we talk all the time and praise each other for all of our good traits. It feels wonderful to have an emotional connection were nothing like that Previously existed. I am an extremely passionate person and my wife is the polar opposite,I don't feel it divorces an answer. She can't help and neither can I , but it is definitely not a dealbreaker. Since I have my wife and a girlfriend, I have learned to appreciate my wife so much more than before. My girlfriend and I are not forever, my wife and I are. I don't know why or how Holly, but it worked and I would never do anything different. If my girlfriend goes away, I'm going to look for another girlfriend. We don't make false promises to each other. I adore my wife and also my girlfriend. They are 2 separate and distinct things and one has no bearing on the other other than as a pressure relief valve. I don't know if I explained that very well. If not feel free to ask me about it. I just can't stand losing control the way I did with my first marriage and I don't want to be taken in that way ever again.
